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An open letter to Klal Yisroel - It’s a year since my name got plastered on many frum websites, claiming they know for a fact that I scammed millions of dollars from innocent victims that were scheduled to be at my Pesach program.

by Heshy Goldstein

An open letter to Klal Yisroel.

It’s been over a year since my name got plastered on many social media forums and frum websites, claiming they know for a fact that I scammed millions of dollars from innocent victims that were scheduled to be at my Pesach event.

At that time, many people came out harshly against me. Many felt the need to warn the public of “the scammer” for doing an unimaginable scam which caused so many to be without Pesach plans. They easily convinced themselves that they’re doing a Mitzvah, and it’s the will of Hashem, to name and shame me and my family.

To be honest, I wasn’t sure what to make of it. I remember thinking that I don’t know of any other person in Klal Yisroel ever being plastered and shamed in this fashion regardless of the crime they may or may not have committed.

Everyone knows (or heard of) a family that lost all their savings by investing in a Ponzi scheme. Yet, none of these scammers or their families were ever exposed online as a scammer. No mention was ever made online to stay away from this Ponzi schemer as he may ask you to invest with him, yet the rules changed when I shared my story with the public. So, I asked myself, why was the green light given to so many frum websites, social media groups, commenters, WhatsApp groups etc. to post and forward all kinds of Loshen Hora and Motzei Shem Ra on me?

My only reasoning at that time, was that these people may have lost some money in shady investments, they needed a place to vent about their losses, and the fact that I came out in public with a video showing how a phishing scam was done to me and how we missed it (which was only done for awareness, so other Yidden don’t become the next victim of a phishing scam) was the perfect opportunity to finally get the closure they needed.

A very smart man (known to have a following of over 500,000 on LinkedIn) said to me, “Once you go public with a story, you’re no longer the owner of it. Anyone can have an opinion about it and take the part they feel they disliked and judge on it.”

This was very painful to hear, and I’ll explain why.

When I found out that my company got scammed with a phishing email, I received many phone calls from very successful business people sharing with me that they too got scammed. I was told to stay strong, and that Hashem will help me recover…basically giving me the Chizuk that they felt they could offer me since they too were affected by it.

I asked each and every one that called me why didn’t you come out in public? You could have shared it in newspapers and tell people to be on the lookout for these email scams so others shouldn’t fall for it. “Yea yea it needs to be done” is all that they said.

I took the opportunity and published a video about what happened so others don’t get hurt.

If you’re a smart person you don’t need to read any further as the story that unfolded should have been very predictable, but I did not see it coming.

Yes, I did get many to thank me as my story stopped them from sending a wire to a phishing scam but to the rest of the frum world this was as someone said to me “good entertainment.”

The phone calls started coming in asking me to go on a Jewish radio show so more people could learn of the danger of phishing scams.

I didn’t think it was necessary as I felt I did my share of awareness but that’s when the pressure started by good meaning people saying to me that I have to do it since some people don’t believe me and this will give me an opportunity to show them black on white what happened. I was assured that this was just to help me clear my name so it’s really doing me a favor.

Well, the rest I think is history as everyone that watched the video will tell you that it was clearly not done to help me and everything to make me look like a real gangster. The “frum” websites worked very hard trying to make me look like the scammer himself that’s trying to cover up this massive scheme.

Anything I said or proved otherwise was used against me which in result gave me the title of a scammer. Unfortunately, they succeeded way beyond their expectations.

I remember discussing this with my LinkedIn buddy and asking him why they were doing this to me? So of course, he lectured me about not going on these shows but also explained to me something that will shake up the Kosher Frum Media.

He said to me “these people will sell their mother for views”. I was not sure what he was saying to me, going on kosher sites to me meant reading news with ads popping up all over.

While having a conversation with Reb Elya Brudny Shlita, he shed some clarity to me. He said something very similar but added to it. “As long as we give ads to these sites, we are feeding the terrorist”. I asked him to explain which he went on to say that it’s the fault of the advertisers. Since the site owner needs to post material that will get them the views needed to be considered a busy site, it’s the advertisers that are enabling the spread Loshen Hora & Rechilos.

While this is not the place for me to share my view on “open forum Jewish/Frum websites” I do however have to question if this is not considered חוטא ומחטיא את הרבים Everyone can comment on a post what his heart desires and no one will hold him accountable for it.

None of these sites have the traditional Hashgocha that Jewish magazines have, and no one tells them what to do. This means that anyone with a keyboard and a phone can freely say anything.

We all know the story of Kamtza Bar Kamtza but what we don’t talk about is that this was a direct result of the Rabonim staying silent.

אָמַר הוֹאִיל וַהֲווֹ יָתְבִי רַבָנַן וְלָא מַחוֹ בֵיהּ שְמַע מִינַהּ קָא נִיחָא לְהוּ…אַקַמצָא וּבַר קַמְצָא חֲרוּב יְרוּשָלַיִם : גיטין נ״ה
“Since the Sages were sitting there and did not protest the actions of the host, although they saw how he humiliated me, learn from it that they were content with what he did.”

I’m reaching out to each one of you to do your part, so this doesn’t happen again. While it’s a huge Mitzvah to buy a beautiful Esrog and to learn all day, the Bias Hamikdush was not destroyed for a lack in Mitzvos and Torah. It was only Sinas Chinum and it’s up to us to fix it.

Many have tried to stay away from the internet and have been successful at it, for the rest of us, we must be realistic and realize that the internet is going to continue to very much be part of our lives. Do realize that many Bnei Torah with filters got caught up with this story.

The Torah states: “You shall not stand idly by the blood of another לא תעמוד על דם רעך
While many have made wonderful arguments to why this is believable Loshen Hora and they know from this one and that one floads of facts about me and my past which gives them the full right to do what they have done (and continue to do so), my best and honest response is very simple. You didn’t hear the other side of the story.

If a person only hears one side of a story and chooses to believe it, there is another very important Gemara to know.

שבת נ״ו: אמר רב יהודה אמר רב אילמלי לא קיבל דוד לשון הרע לא נחלקה מלכות בית דוד ולא עבדו ישראל עבודה זרה ולא גלינו מארצנו

“Rav Yehuda said that Rav said: Had Dovid Hamelech not accepted Ziba’s slanderous report about Mephibosheth, the kingdom of the house of Dovid would not have been divided, Bnei Yisroel would not have worshipped idols because of Jeroboam, and we would not have been exiled from our land”.

Let’s do our part to demand a Hashgocah from the frum sites we visit regularly. Let’s do our part of not sharing posts (or being part of WhatsApp groups) that intentionally share Loshen Hora. And finally, let’s teach our children the difference between reading news
and reading news from a Loshen Hora free site only.

Heshy Goldstein Toms River, New Jersey

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Editors note: Video of Harav Elimelech Biderman Shlita speaking about this incident in defense of Heshy Goldstein

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12 Comments

  • Chaim 11/17/2024 | ט"ז חשון התשפ"ה

    We have to be careful before we jump to conclusions and smear innocent people’s name.

  • Gershon B 11/17/2024 | ט"ז חשון התשפ"ה

    I don’t know much details about this Pesach program incident. But what I do know is that wire phishing scams is as real as it gets, my friend got fooled by a real looking email and wired nearly a million dollars to scammers when purchasing a property.
    This happened a few years back, the gelt was never recovered.

    I’ve heard a few stories of Yidden in the community that were victims to similar wire/phishing scams over the years.

    While I don’t know much details of this incident, I do know that ppl (and a “Jewish” website were accusing Heshy before even hearing what happened just as the news broke.

    I hope these ppl advocate in the community with even half the amount of ‘energy’ to spread awareness of wire/phishing internet scams as this has happened to many ppl. The difference is other Jewish ppl it was for their home or investment properties so nobody in the community felt a need to “blame”

    It’s time we help protect our community, spread awareness and help stop Yidden to fall victim from wire/phishing and internet scams, promote 2-step factor for EVERYTHING (2-step authentication is the most important), promote the need to verbally confirm account number before wiring, promote situational awareness. Blaming a Yid for falling victim to this doesn’t help anyone, be a hero let ppl know to be aware to avoid future victims.

  • Leah 11/16/2024 | ט"ו חשון התשפ"ה

    It’s always bothered me tremendously when frum websites or forums allow loshon hara to be written on their site. Loshon hara goes against everything we Yidden stand for! “Free speech” is not something Hashem allows of us and is not something we should ever be tolerant of amongst one another.

    I think frum sites and forums that don’t censor loshon hara are making a big Chillul Hashem, and I wish they would realize what it can chas v’shalom mean for them (the owners and managers of these sites) after 120. May they put a stop to their tolerance of loshon hara soon, so they can do Teshuvah, and thus not have anything to fear after 120 in this regard.

    I also thank Hashem that I did not know anything about Heshy’s story and all the Motzi sheim ra that was spread until now when reading this letter. I remember hearing that something happened with a Pesach hotel and many families had to make new plans last minute. B’CHASDEI HASHEM that was the extent of what came my way about it, and I didn’t hear, read, or need to wrestle with my Yetzer hara to dismiss, any negative information or opinions about Heshy.

    Heshy, thank you for writing this open letter. I daven that as a whole community we become less tolerant of loshon hara and Motzi sheim ra both offline and online, and that owners and managers of frum websites take your letter to heart and realize how much they play a part in Shmiras Halashon online.

  • We believe you! 11/16/2024 | ט"ו חשון התשפ"ה

    Don’t worry HaShem knows the truth
    HaShem should watch over you and ur family.
    This should be a kapparah and the beginning of much success Beh

  • Ss 11/16/2024 | ט"ו חשון התשפ"ה

    What a yid! TYH im a part of this nation! Never talk bad about another yid it’s why the beis hamikdash was destroyed

  • Rebecca 11/13/2024 | י"ב חשון התשפ"ה

    Lashon ha Ra is simply forbidden and more people should learn about this plus putting signs in the open is embarrassing a person as well. That said there is a lot of scamming going on in Israel and many people are affected by it. So their hurt and pain is understandable. Hoping for better times. A New President is not enough. We have to continue to do our part as well.

  • Pusheteh Yid 11/12/2024 | י"א חשון התשפ"ה

    Tizkeh l’mitzvos

  • PB&J 11/12/2024 | י"א חשון התשפ"ה

    “If a person hears one side of a story…” unfortunately most ppl make judgements after hearing only one side. May we be zoche to see the best in each other.

  • Someone who cares 11/12/2024 | י"א חשון התשפ"ה

    Truly truly sorry about the horrible things that happened to you. I know personally what a great couple you are and feel sadness deeply.

  • Loshen Hara destroys lives! 11/12/2024 | י"א חשון התשפ"ה

    So sorry for the agmas nefesh you’ve been experiencing. So sorry that ‘trying to inform others of how you were deceived to save Them from the same’ backfired on you.
    We should all make a hachlota NOT to spread news that can harm anyone – and read the seforim of the Chafetz Chaim.

  • Mayer Winter 11/12/2024 | י"א חשון התשפ"ה

    This horrible tzoroh happening to you is min hashamayim so you can be mesakein a tremendous avlah being done by our klal.
    Stay strong, and Hashem should bench you and your family both in this world and in the next.
    You are doing the right thing, since you are doing what Gedolim are guiding you, and I know that you are full of Yiras Hashem and Ahavas Hashem.
    It’s my privilege to know you,
    All the best

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